My Tribe / #7daychip / Great Stair Climb 2011

17 01 2011

"The Warriors" (one of my favorite childhood movies)

My friend Ryan (nomorebacon) wrote a really great blog post last week about the Power of the Tribe. He was referring to the power of coming together and helping a fellow blogger (journeybeyondsurvival) get a  therapy dog for her chickadee. It was awesome to watch everyone come together and in the blink of an eye raise the multiple thousands of dollars needed to get her the four legger she needs to lead a great life.

I am part of that tribe.

That tribe is a part of me.

I’ve been in a bad place the last couple of days. Normally I could chalk it up to it being “that time of the month” but this time it was purely depression sinking in. Big events are looming in front of me and my husband and with that comes more stress than I was am ready to handle (though handle it I will). On top of that a feeling of being stagnant in my journey and it was a combination that brought some dark clouds over me and my emotional state of not well-being.

I don’t really know how to reach out to people. When I am on top of my game, (the game of the  LCJ) I feel confident people want to talk to me, be around me and it’s easier for me to put myself out there to be vulnerable to what others bring to the table. When I am far from being on top of my game I shut down. I begin to think  people don’t want to be around me. That they don’t care what I feel or think. That I don’t deserve to be a part of my tribe.

That’s where I’ve been this week.

This post isn’t about where I was.

It’s about where I am.

It’s about my Tribe.

When I started to descend into the darkness of feeling bad about myself I immediately received texts  and twitter messages from people I know in real life and people I’ve never laid eyes on and only know them in 140 character conversations. All checking in with me to make sure I was okay. I wasn’t. But I was honest about where I was. They didn’t turn their back on me. They didn’t ignore me, or make me feel like I was being a bother. In fact, they sent me messages like:

“You are NEVER alone”

“I love ya T, stay strong”

“What is today (scale of 1-10 on my depression)?”

“Sending you love, compassion, hugs”

“Blues are okay, just don’t derail your progress. Talk it out, don’t eat it out. We emo eaters must be careful.”

“Sunshine and stars are ALWAYS there. Sometimes we can’t see them behind the clouds and darkness”

“I wish my depression could meet your depression and kick one another’s asses!”

I’m realizing I need this tribe more than they need me and I’m beginning to understand that I can no longer down play the power of having people in my life that lift me up when I am not able to do so for myself. That being said, I’ve also come to understand that while I can work out on my own and break my own sweat there is one other tribe member that I’ve been missing and have decided to go back to seeing Godfather. I don’t need him to tell me how to work out (I’m pretty good at it on my own) but I do need him to give me the all important (important to my emotional psyche) pat on the back and the “good job kid’ that I’ve been missing like you wouldn’t believe. I haven’t really kept the blogging world up on his where abouts lately because I was still getting used to not seeing him every day. He has since moved to Innovative Fitness. I’ve come to understand that he is as much a part of my tribe as anybody else and it’s important to me to keep having him as my trainer.

My tribe is important to me.

My tribe is essential to my success on this journey.

I am essential to my success on this journey.

I am fighting back.

On a scale of 1 – 10 today.

I am a solid 5.5

And that is outstanding!


Another thing I’m learning about this LCJ is when I don’t have a goal of some sort, my oomph for being on this journey is pretty much suck ass. This last week was proof of that. I went from doing something nice for myself (getting my toes did) to trying to buy something nice for myself (shopping fiasco) to eating all the crap in my house to purging to saying some very hateful things to myself and finally sitting under one of the darkest clouds I can remember having. One of the reasons for this downfall? I’m not really involved with anything at this point. This is one of the reasons I’m going back to seeing Godfather. Seeing him on a regular basis will keep me focused on making great decisions. It’s also one of the reasons I’ve decided to join the #7daychip challenge put on Brad Gansberg. As a recovering addict, I am well aware of the recovery chip idea and I think it’s a fantastic tribe for me to join. I have a dysfunctional (unhealthy) relationship with food and with my own thought process and I think this will be a great way for me to be aware of both while attempting to earn my #7daychip and beyond.

The great thing is I get to define what standards need to be met in order to earn this chip. After much thought I’ve decided on the following:

*I will not eat mindlessly (no random snacking without first making sure I’m hungry)

*I will drink at least 64 oz of water each day

*I will take my vitamins

*If I think something negative about myself I will say at least three things I like about myself in front of the mirror.

*I will eat consciously ( I will thank my food for keeping me strong and making me healthy)

*I will not eat any chocolate


In case you missed it I started my Great Stair Climb of 2011 at the beginning of January. I am on a mission to climb 13,428 floors (the equivalent of climbing the Empire State Building 132 times). As of today I’ve climbed 16,125 stairs or the equivalent of 1075 floors. This means I’ve climbed the Empire State Building approximately 8.7 times.

I am 8% of the way there!











14 responses

17 01 2011
Ring Around Rinn

*hugs* We will always be here for you!

(I got my toes did yesterday too. Mood altering experience, isn’t it?)

17 01 2011

5.5 is definitely the right direction. I’m glad things are looking up. Love you.

17 01 2011

Everybody is getting pretty toes and now I kinda feel left out. If you would like a funny visual . . . Imagine me getting a pedicure. I imagine a mix of dumb and dumber meets some sort of bear wrestling.

Tara the biggest thing that you have going for you is that you do share your feelings. You accept them, vocalize them, and learn to deal with them as the person you are now. No more burying them with what ever treat of the day exists. Thanks for including me in your tribe, and if you need a laugh just think of the visual from above.

17 01 2011

I totally forgot my “warrrrrrriorsssss, come out and pllaaaayyyyyy” (triple bottle clinks) Love it!

17 01 2011

I didn’t get my toes did, because I keep them so short for running that there’s not much there to “did”. However, I did run 3 5ks this week, thanks in part to your example and inspiration, Tara. If there’s something I can do to equally inspire you, just tell me. You are loved, respected, and admired. You are a whole being with some funky parts, and that’s normal. You are amazing.

17 01 2011
jen (@jeninRL)

you are amazing!

17 01 2011
jen (@jeninRL)

big man introduced me to the warriors a few years ago…LOVE it!!

17 01 2011

My goodness – what kind of machine is that?
I have never seen such a dangerous thing.

17 01 2011

I could really relate to this post. All of the positive comments you got sang to me, esp. meeting each other’s depression and kicking some ass, now that would be one hell of a tribal meeting.
Hang in there.

17 01 2011
Jules - Big Girl Bombshell

Love this POST! YES! We all need a tribe….I like your 7 day chip goals!

17 01 2011

may favorite goal of your 7 day chip is the ‘say three nice things about myself for every negative”….that will go a long way toward erasing your negative tapes. goals are very motivating. Good luck to you.

18 01 2011

youre rocking it.
right now Im just cheering you on from the ATX.

18 01 2011

Don’t know how I missed the Great Stair Climb, but I think it’s a great idea. We’re in synch today: my exercise goal is to climb 960 steps on my staircase at work, Fred A. Stairs. (Yes, I did name the staircase. I’m weird.)

18 01 2011

LOVE the commitment to say good things to yourself. Over and over again, until the good things drown out the negative voices. I’m so glad you’re feeling a little better and learning to rock this life exactly where you are. Love you lots!

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